When you think no one is appreciating everything you do...someone is. When you think no one sees when you put extra attention to your looks...someone does. When you think you’re the only momma to break down after a stressful day...you’re not.
Nothing can prepare us for how hard it is to be a mom. It doesn’t matter if you’re a stay at home mom, a single mom, a mom who goes to school or a working mom. Everything you do matters!
I talked to my friends who are mothers and asked them what the hardest part of being a mom was. Their answers made me realize that all mothers struggle with the same thoughts.
We all worry that we won’t always be there to protect our kids and keep them safe.
All moms make sacrifices for their kids and none of us regret it.
Moms struggle with knowing that if they have to work then we have to accept the fact that we will miss out on so much time with our kids.
It's hard being a mom, doing everything for our kids and cleaning our homes every day only to realize an hour later its a mess again.
It’s not easy making sure your kids are happy!
It’s not easy having to be the bad guy every now and then. And it’s definitely not easy seeing your child hurt and not being able to do anything about it! I don’t think moms get enough credit for everything they do. If I see a mom in the grocery store pushing her basket while trying to hold on to her toddlers hand while they cry that they want a candy, I smile at her and tell her she’s doing a great job. If I see a mom at the doctors office holding her sick child in her arms nearly in tears, I smile at her and tell her she’s doing a great job. And if I see a mom at the park yelling at her child for running off without her, I smile at her and tell her she’s doing a great job! Who knows how close to the breaking point that mom may be. Who knows what thoughts are in her mind as she wonders if she’s being a good mom. Is she being loving enough? Is she being strict enough? Is she really spending enough time with her kids?
I'm a mom to 2 beautiful kids and I’ve more than once wondered if I’m doing a good job. I was the mom that let my daughter cry for hours when she was a newborn and had colic. I remember sitting outside her room crying with her. I didn’t know what to do and everyone told me crying was good for babies...so that’s what I did. But while allowing her to cry, it made me cry. I was a young stay at home mom and I swear I lost my mind at least a dozen times! Everyone wants to believe stay at home moms have it made, but they don't. They spend more time with their children, yes but they are also missing adult interaction. They are watching cartoons most of the day, getting groceries, going to doctor appointments, cleaning the house, making breakfast, making lunch, making dinner, giving baths, trying to make time for their husbands....I'm exhausted remembering most of it.
When I was a single mom, I prayed every day that whatever I’m doing please let it be right. I remember being the mom that was struggling with 2 kids at the doctors office and people looking at me when one was crying uncontrollably and the other was running around the office like a crazy person! Those looks they gave me spoke volumes! It wasn’t looks of understanding or sympathy, it was looks asking why am I allowing my kid to cry so loud and letting the other misbehave! It was hard being the only one changing diapers, giving baths, waking up to a fussy baby in the middle night and not having much of a social life because all I did was work and be a mom.
I remember when I had just started working and I had to take my daughter and son to daycare. The first day i dropped them off they both cried because they wanted to leave with me. They didn’t understand why they had to stay behind all day and depend on others to feed them, change them and teach them new things. They started in daycare young and didn’t understand why mommy had to go to work or why they couldn’t go with me.
So when I say I respect all the moms out there, believe me because I understand what you feel.
Being a mom has been the most challenging thing in my life but it’s also been the most rewarding. When my kids are sick or if they hurt themselves, they immediately want me. They want to find comfort in my arms and it’s such an amazing feeling. When I get off work early and pick them up early, their smiles remind me that everything is worth it. When my daughter has had a bad day and comes to me and tells me everything, I know I’m doing something right. When I’m at home stressed about every day life and my son sees that i'm sad, he will simply put his arms around me and say ,”I love you mommy.”
These are the moments that remind me that I’m doing a great job. I don’t care how many hours of sleep I’ve lost, how many times I was thrown up on, how many times I made my kids mad at me because in my heart I know I’m an amazing mother. There are mothers out there that may not hear it enough so I’m gonna say it again... momma, you are doing a great job. Don’t ever doubt yourself because if you have cried after a long day of being a mom then know you’re doing it right.
If you love your kids and put their needs before your own, you’re doing it right.
If you are making sure your kids know that God needs to be in their lives, then you are doing it right.
Mothers have so much they have to constantly battle with and it starts with our internal battles. We worry if the mother next to us is judging our parenting. We stress about wanting to be our kids friend but still have them respect us as the one in charge. Do you know that as long as you remind your child how much you love them then everything is going to be OK. Once I get after Emma or Tone I always say I love you. When they ask for something and I have to say no, I remind them I love them. No matter how many times they get angry at me, they know they are loved. As a mother, our strength comes from being the comfort our kids need.
A mothers love is so powerful that God uses it to describe His love for us...
“As one whom his mother comforts, so I will comfort you” Isaiah 66:13